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Can women have it all? Introducing the third metric

From: A Balanced View,

12
September
2013
Can women have it all? Introducing the third metric

Arianna Huffington has called for a third women’s revolution. Women need to reclaim their lives because burn out is no longer an option and success is no longer just about the money and power, it now includes wellbeing too.

As an alternative health expert, the wellbeing thing I know about - I work with it, I teach it and I believe I am pretty hot on walking the walk as well as talking the talk. But here’s the problem: a year ago my business partner Laura and I expanded our business. We franchised out our brand and are in the process of opening a wellness centre so time has been a luxury I haven’t had for the past 12 months and I have literally run myself ragged.

Sure, structures have been put into place, I’ve chosen the right food, I’ve supplemented and I’ve exercised, but things like places/treatment-pilates,yoga/offer-type-local/in-uk/yoga, meditating and “just being” have totally fallen off my radar. It’s just not been possible. So how can we really achieve it all?

Women have for many years been struggling with the juggling act of having a career, a family, a relationship and a social life. But is it really possible or will we always spread ourselves too thin? And what do we mean by wellbeing?

For me that means diet, exercise, regular therapies like kinesiology and massage, making sure my outlook is positive and remembering not to store my negative emotions. But wellbeing is also something else, something more esoteric and that’s the crux because in my experience, that needs time. Time to laugh, time to dance, time to look at a nice view or just “be”. Time to potter around doing little things like arranging flowers in a vase, or creating a delicious dinner rather than something thrown together in a panic.

My intent is always there. When I wake up I often think about meditating, but just dragging myself out of bed is the hardest part of my practice. When I’m exhausted, a lie in (even for just 15 minutes) is a luxury. I’ll try to limit my exposure to work, but I sit at the PC and the next thing I know it’s 3 hours later.

The third metric is vital, I agree wholeheartedly and good goddess do I wanna be one of those “up at dawn doing yoga followed by a green juice before skipping to my office” type of women. But in reality, I’m a “drag my butt out of bed, put the clothes on I left on the floor last night, grab a protein shake, do the school run and roll into my office feeling stressed already” kind of woman. So how do we change our behaviour without putting more pressure on ourselves?

In this day and age of being surrounded by technology, how do we really switch off? Is it as simple as being really clear with ourselves and others about our boundaries? Managing people’s expectations that stuff won’t happen now but being really clear about when? Direct communication is one of the great attributes of the sacred feminine, so surely if anyone can make that revolution happen it's women?

It would be a step forward and making it happen will take daily discipline where we set wellbeing as a goal for the day. This can take a lot of practice and knowing how to say “no” plays an important role. If we want to change the parameters of success and allow ourselves to have a life and wellbeing as well as money and power, the seed of change has to start now.

I agree Arianna, there is another way to do it and whilst I may slip up on the way, I’m in. And to prove it, I’m going off for lunch with my family.

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